Marriage requires numerous factors to be observed by the married individuals in order for their marriages to thrive and last till death apart them. Some aspects that need to be focused include; trust, open communication, respect, humility among others. Most relationships die due to lack of some of these factors from either or both parties of the relationship. This paper pays high attention on the review of the article entitled, “Can We Talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages.”
I understand that romantic relationships are deemed to be some of the most rewarding and deepest relationships of all but in some circumstances, these relationships can be as well the most damaging. For example, as for my case, I had tried to establish a perfect and open line of communication with my wife during the fifteen years of our marriage. However, this relationship failed to work as what I anticipated since I felt like I was the sole person who was doing the talking and also due to the stressful life that most army wives have. Moreover, during my relationship, I used to be deployed for long durations and sometimes it would take fifteen months or more. On coming back home, the relationship would appear worse than it used to be before leaving. Over time, communication lines between my wife and I were narrowed and limited by these deployments, and this resulted to the loss of trust in both of us and the long run, our intimate and romantic relationship failed. We tried to find a solution on our communication problem but soon she gave up working on it at all. I kept working harder to maintain it but since she had long given up, our relationship turned to a plutonic, interpersonal nature than a romantic and an intimate one.
Self-disclosure is of great importance to a satisfying, romantic and intimate relationship (Schoenberg2011). I always kept most issues open to my wife, but she did very little if any on the same. As time went by, she began changing in almost every bit of her life. The things that I was damned aware of her change to the extent that she could like them anymore. For example, she negated things like poems, music, flowers, candy among others.
In our relationship, we experienced gender similarities such as the effective affirmation. Before my deployment, my wife and I used to hug and kiss especially before departing for or after job, and referring each other with romantic words especially over the phone. Moreover, she could buy for me gifts especially during my birthdays and I would do the same when on coming across things that would brighten her day.
Most of the generalization in thus research precisely fits my relationship situation. First, I could not sense a rat concerning my relationship from the time my deployment started taking long durations. I realized there is a communication problem in our relationship hen it was too late (Schoenberg2011). Secondly, our relationship changed from that of romantic and intimate one to that of plutonic and interpersonal one to the extent that, the only kind of communication that we could make concerned the obvious ones such as who to pay the bills.
It is, therefore, evident from this article that quality communication is of great importance for the survival of happy, intimate and romantic relationship. Communication provides an opportunity for partners to share their private feelings, perceptions, doubts and fears.
Schoenberg, N. (2011, January 17). Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages. McClatchy-Tribune News Service. Retrieved from ProQuest Newsstand. Document ID: 2240370261