Dear Joan and Nicholas,
Interpersonal communication is the most vital form of communication. Many people use this form of communication in their daily life but do not know that they are using it. Interpersonal communication happens when people talking are close to each other and respond immediately to one another. It is a skill learned and can be natured with knowledge and practice. Diction, intonation and enunciation are usually used in interpersonal communication give meaning to the information being talked about. As it is in a relationship, a question asked has to get a feedback or answer and thus through effective interpersonal communication this is usually not difficult. A good interpersonal communication in a relationship can prevent things such as breaking up and filing for divorce from happening. (Kuchment, 2008)
Before starting, I would like to take this ample opportunity to congratulate both of you for taking this bold step in life of getting married and I wish the best of luck in your marriage. I am glad to take you through the interpersonal communication advice in a relationship. And luckily I will be able to shed light on everything that a marriage requires to happy and long lasting. Interpersonal relationship is important and a key to a good relationship since through it one is able to learn ways of communicating with one another and dealing with our thoughts. I mean who would like an unhappy marriage or relationship? The learning and understanding of various skills that I would like to have will help in the strengthening your marriage bond and also in your daily lives. These details include strategies for conflict in interpersonal communication and role of emotional intelligence, principles and misconceptions of interpersonal communication, barriers, and self- concept just to mention a few. Reading this letter will serve as a good guide in your marriage.
First I would like to tell you about the principles and misconceptions of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal relationships formed on grounds of honesty and openness is usually dependent on the clarity interpersonal communications. The feeling of withdrawal from a conversation from one side of the couple usually implies a negative approach showing that communication is steadily deteriorating. This can lead to decision making problems among the couple since it will always be a one-person responsibility. The core value in making an interpersonal relationship more successful as put by many writers and experts is respect. The couple should understand that respect is something that is mutually earned thus with this understanding couples will live appreciating each other for whom they are and their capabilities.
Another idea is Self-concept. It is an attribute that never stops in our lives even when you are an adult still you are continuing to learn about your self-concept. The advice I would like to give you on self-concept is that not to be afraid in the expression of your opinions and feelings that might have happened within yourself. The expression of one’s self is a good thing as far as interpersonal relationship is concerned. Through this one is able to see their faults or qualities through an individual perspective in themselves that they might not be able to see. (Rubenstein, 2011)
Thirdly I would like to tell about emotional intelligence which is the ability of an individual to identify, understand, use and manage emotions in positive ways to communicate effectively, defuse conflict, overcome challenges, relieving of stress and empathize with others. The various aspects of our daily lives are mostly impacted by our emotional intelligence. Understanding the concept of interpersonal communication, one has to explore ways in which self-awareness and knowledge can be developed; which are the components of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence supports all the skills of communication thus one has to learn about its components. Emotional intelligence forms the basis of improving and understanding interpersonal relationship and communication in marriage. (Jeanne, 2014)
Barriers to effective interpersonal interaction or communication can be divided into internal and external. The internal barriers that would affect a couple include negative emotions, lack of commitment and low self-esteem. If one finds him or her in any of the situations, he or she should not fear to bring them out. The external barriers include language barriers, environmental barriers, cultural barriers and psychological barriers.
The other thing I would like to advice about is Self-disclosure in a relationship. Disclosure is an important thing to do as it gives out information about the other party that one wouldn’t have known quickly. Disclosure in a relationship mostly occurs when the relationship that the couple has formed has grown strong, and mutual trust exists amongst the couple. According to different researches carried out it have been found that exposure usually raises the level of intimacy in a relationship. As much as self-discloser has benefits in marriage, it is prudent to limit your disclosure as it might hurt the other party or couple. (West, 2006)
Conflict is something that is inevitable in any marriage or union. The advice that I would give in managing your marriage is to accept the negative and positive effects of conflict resolution process. Managing conflict usually begins with the definition then examination of possible solutions then testing the practicability and lastly to evaluate the solutions to identify it effects.
In conclusion, understanding the concept of interpersonal communication will help in reducing the number of break-ups and divorces that we are experiencing on earth thus couples should try and learn the concepts. Thus as your marriage is still young should strive to adhere to these ideas so as to have a happy marriage.
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